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Wednesday, February 2, 2011

no longer moving

thank you, mother nature. your gigantic ice storm prevented me from having to move twice in two days.

the story is that i have a friend whom i attended university with excitedly willing to kick out her ex-girlfriend in order to give me a room to live in at her apartment. it was the three of them living in the 2 bedroom place, with my friend and her girlfriend living in the same room for the first month before they split up. three months went by, and when i went to visit her at the apartment in november for my monthly rounds we started to discuss my moving in to replace her ex-girlfriend. it was great, i thought. she wouldn't be emotionally distraught by seeing her everyday and would move into the living room, which is bigger than the bedroom and has a balcony, and i would be able to move in and she and her current roommate wouldn't have to have a $200 increase in rent every month.

the plans were set by the beginning of january, and i would be moving in on the first of february. since her exgirlfriend didn't move out because of the ice storm, i decided that the first was not the best day to move in my stuff as i would have had limited space to put it. i decided it was fine, even though i had spent plenty of time packing and fantasizing about how the whole move would take place (i'm rather obsessive in a way where i have to follow through with plans, else something in my head will snap and i'll end up rather disappointed). the plan was to just deduct money from a deposit i was giving the girl moving out for each day she still lived there. i couldn't move on the second either because the ice storm only got worse, and that was fine as i had means of compensating myself for the days i didn't live there.

all day today my phone was off, so when i got home around 10 i plugged it in to find that i had 5 messages from my friend, with a long apologetic wall of text that explained that (tl;dr) the landlord did not want to have 3 tenants at the apartment. i didn't rage. for some reason i was expecting this to not work out in my favor based on how undependable my friend has been in the 3 years i've known her. i mean, the reason why we were such good friends in the first place is because we are both rather selfish and destructive. the only difference was that i was emotionally selfish (kept to myself) and physically destructive, while she was physically selfish and both emotionally and physically destructive. our interests were completely different, but that didn't matter since we were so similar in our core values.

so now i do not know what the situation is down there; whether her ex-girlfriend actually moved out or not or if she decided that she inevitably did not want to share her already limited space with someone else. she could be telling the truth about the landlord, but she isn't above lying to save face. i doubt she's lying since she lost most of her friends after breaking up with her girlfriend and i helped her get over it emotionally. i was really looking forward to moving in with her and her kitten,
but i don't really have any intention on seeing her for a long time even if i move to the area by myself. between the times i actually helped her, the time i couldn't drive for 2 weeks after losing my car keys because she was just too busy to take me to the dealership for replacements, the going behind my back to tell our third roommate last year about how i spread her dog's fecal matter on her comforter and doorknob incognito after she wouldn't train the dog to not take a fucking dump twice (!) every day on the carpet (let alone that it was able to get into my room once, chew up my glasses and take a giant piss on my bed) after repeatedly telling her that it was disgusting and i did not want to live in such a shithouse, and for now being undependable after three months of getting my hopes up for the move.

i don't think anyone should have to deal with all of this drama from one person, so i'm just cutting her out of my life, fondly remembering her during the good times we had and wiping my hands clean. it's a pity, since she was my best friend my last two years of college and a significant part of why i moving to that area anyway.

so if her exgirlfriend had not stayed there yesterday because of the ice, i would have moved down then would have had to move back today or tomorrow per request of the landlord. you know, if she was being truthful. so thanks for the warning, mama n.

but hey, at least it's something to blog about!

68 comments:

Chris said...

Dont you just hate the winter sometimes?

Unknown said...

interesting story!

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Cpt Pownzor said...

SNOWDAY!!! woooo i havent put on pants all day!

Master Maniacal said...

Yea, best just to cut your losses, which really wasn't anything money wise just your hopes and stuff. If it's that bad before you move in imagine what it would be like while you lived there. #1 why I don't have roommates anymore can't stand the. At least you now have car keys :P

Sam said...

You are right, it's something to blog about! always nice to read your posts, take care.

Metatron said...

It's hard living with a best friend sometimes anyway.

Waaaoi said...

more bitches in the sea mate!

murz90 said...

It would kill me, I hate moving.

Anonymous said...

I feel you. It's something to blog about. I'm tuned in.

Anonymous said...

its good to live over here in cali. forecast for the week: nice.

CanuckNation said...

Snowday made my school close. :D

beyondthisall said...

Youre right, atleast its something to blog about. Its a decent one too :P

Frosty said...

Hah, my dad was talking about the blizzard.

I'm sayin what blizzard? It's like 60 here, pretty nice :p

Polybius said...

Hehe! Nice cat.

Neuro said...

I've had some bad experiences with friends turned room mates before as well. hope it turns out well :)

Okko said...

well at least you get to take a break because of the weather :)

Me said...

sorry about your situation..but cute kiten!

also how did you get that background?

6mr said...

Have had same kind of situations and after that i'w decided to never do any kind of business with my friends it just makes things weird

earth said...

Cool story bro.
Nice blog btw

Les said...

gosh, that's quite the drama laden situation. Come to think of it, my last move was as big a headache as well.

Alexander Stark said...

We had some light rain yesterday at very freezing temperatures, so it turned immediately into ice on the ground. I fell on my behind pretty hard when leaving McDonalds. It's a shame, if I'd live in the US I could probably sue them and be rich :'(

roextt said...

longg post, but i followed ahaha

Tasty said...

adorable cat :)

my day in a sentence said...

Doesn't sound like a good friend anyway.

Unknown said...

Mother nature can be a bitch sometimes.
Take care.

Michael Koenigseder said...

Sucks about all that extra rent man!

fadedline17 said...

Sorry about the bad situation. :/ At least you have a cut cat though. xD

Michael Koenigseder said...

sounds like a dud man!

T. Banacek said...

Snowstorms and dog poop. Great post!

mamtc said...

sorry to read this and take it as a good sign:)May be winter saved u staying with a horrible roommate.

I hate moving, really eel bad for those who do that for living.

Jimmy Fungus said...

How much rent is the kitten paying?

Unknown said...

damn dude, that sucks

FLWLS said...

living with an ex is definitely the sucks.

Justsayin' said...

Living with friends never seems to work anyway.

Anonymous said...

That sounds pretty unfortunate. At least it sounds like you might be better off not living there anyway.

Bassislv said...

that's sad mate, i hope the winter ends soon to you, nice cat btw

Motivationalized said...

I lived with my Ex for a whole year, we got along ok, but it was hard not to think about sex...

phil said...

Snow's a pain in the butt pal, we had a foot and half a few weeks ago, all gone now though, thank god

temptation said...

maybe it was some kind of fate which stops you turning down there...luck for you

and the very best for you and your friend

Zakk said...

sounds like it worked out in the end.

metalpark_73189 said...

Yea this ice storm was a bitch. I hate winter... and ex girlfriends xD

Toto said...

nice story!!

http://all-around-toto.blogspot.com/

Anonymouse said...

honestly tl;dr right now, i'll try again later though.

G said...

drama drama - moving can be a pain sometimes

Anonymous said...

It sounds like you are having tough times! I hope everything gets sorted out!

trippinkets said...

the storm stopped me from doing shit i didnt want to also

Mr. Hate said...

Hey hope it works out for you soon! Follow me for some humor to make your day better!

Unknown said...

haha the weather here is so bad i have to fuckin walk half a mile in the snow just to get a swisher. bull shit.

PS3 Fnatic said...

I suppose that's good and bad for both of you.

epicwallpapersandart.blogspot said...

that sucks bro

Anonymous said...

Ya man snow....

Brut said...

Hey, I wish you luck man, sometimes times can get tough

Brightview said...

I hate snow

tadpole said...

sorry to hear about your situation. sounds like you made the right choice and a very mature one at that, remembering the good times and cutting your losses was definitely the way to go!

Delthra Phicorn said...

Wow, this just sucks all around for you, yet it may end up working out for the best. Sometimes it is funny how life saves us.

CrazyJuan said...

Wow harsh times it seems. Chin up, bro.

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Coilis said...

Its a good thing I live in hawaii dont have to deal with those types of storms.

RP said...

You were saved!
When you mentioned of wiping your hands clean, I couldnt help but think of the door knob incident :)

Lysander said...

Like Brightview said, I hate snow it makes everything more complicated and slows it down.

Alopix said...

I pity you mate! At least you got something to write about :)

MMAX said...

It sucks..

HéxXxèN said...

it's suck !!!

FunkyTechDude said...

love the blog, I wish the truth would com out more.

Anonymous said...

Woo. More blogging. :]

Doo said...

I'm glad to hear that! Give us new posts :)

Scanon said...

That cat <3

Shutterbug said...

That's a very cute kitty.

Mike Yang said...

Truth. I live in the unplowed-bits of Brooklyn, snow is a nightmare. Never thought I'd be shoveling my way out of an apartment building.